| MICHELLE - THE RICH LITTLE
POOR KID
"Michelle," my father said in a very serious voice,
"there are some things we need to talk to you about."
I felt like something must really be wrong for my dad to be
so serious so I asked, "What is it, Dad?" "Go get Andrea and come join your mother and me in the
living room."
I ran upstairs and got my younger sister, Andrea, and told
her that mom and dad wanted to talk to us in the living room.
I could tell by the look on her face that she was as worried
as me as to what news they had to tell us.
Finally after we were seated, he explained, "Your mother
and I have spent a lot of time talking and praying about this
and we realize that your grandmother needs more care than
we can give her, so we have decided to put her in a nursing
home."
"No," I said in a voice that expressed my pain.
My eyes immediately filled with tears and I said, "I
love Grandma. I'll help take care of her. Please don't take
her away," I pleaded.
I thought of my dear grandmother asleep in bed at this very
moment, completely unaware of the decisions that were being
made for her life. "But Michelle," my mother protested, "you know
that she has become very forgetful lately. What I haven't
told you girls is that last night I found her wandering around
outside.
Thank the Lord I happened to check her room before
I went to bed last night. When she wasn't there and I checked
through the rest of the house and I couldn't find her, I was
frantic and was just about to call the police when your father
came home. We both looked outside and we found her three houses
down in the Miller's front yard."
"Really?" exclaimed my seven year old sister in
unbelief.
"Yes dear," my father said, "I'm afraid so."
He then put his lips tightly together so I could see that
he was not through giving us bad news. After a minute of silence,
he continued, "It's going to cost a lot of money to put
her in a decent nursing home. You know daddy doesn't make
a lot of money and with me putting Grandma in a nursing home,
well, it looks like we have no choice but to sell our house
and move into a less expensive house."
It was bad enough to hear that Grandma was going to have to
move out, but it was almost too much to bear to hear that
we had to move out too. I said, "Isn't there any other way, Daddy?" "I'm afraid not Michelle."
My little sister started crying and ran into my mother's arms.
I was ten years old and I felt like I was too big to cry even
though I certainly felt like it. My parents sent us off to bed and it was there in the privacy
of my own bedroom that I let my emotions out. I started crying
so hard that I buried my face in my pillow so no one in the
house could hear me. I loved my grandma so much and it hurt
me to know her mind was slipping and that she was going to
be separated from the rest of the family. She had a special
place in my heart and I knew I had a special place in hers
too so thinking of her leaving us only made me cry harder.
And then I thought of having to move which probably meant
having to go to a new school and make new friends. I was a
shy person and the thought of having to go to new surroundings
terrified me.
That week my parents found a nursing home they liked and Grandma
told us that she was happy to be moving to a new place, but
I could tell by her eyes she was just saying that so we wouldn't
feel so bad.
Then Dad put our house up for sale and started looking around
for another house to buy. He was hoping that we could continue
going to the same school, but it turned out that the house
he could afford was on the other side of town. This house
was a lot different than the one I had grown up in. Even though
we had never been rich we had always lived comfortably, but
this new house was run down and very small. In our old house
I had my own bedroom, but now my sister and I had to share
a room.
I tried so hard not to show my disappointment because I didn't
want to hurt my father's feelings. But my sister started crying
and saying, "Please take me home."
"Andrea," my mother said, "this is home."
"No, no," she protested, I don't like this place,
it's not nice and big and new like our house."
My mother hugged her and said, "Honey, home is where
love is and this IS home." My father came over and took her and picked her up and said,
"Andrea, you'll be surprised what a little paint and
work will do to this place, You'll see, it will look great."
After my father had applied a lot of paint and a lot of work,
the house still looked old and run down. I felt his efforts
were like putting a lot of make-up on a very old woman. No
amount of make-up can make an old woman look young and no
amount of paint could make our house look new. I resigned
myself to living in a house that displayed the fact we were
poor.
I started going to my new school right after Winter Break
and it was as difficult as I thought it would be adjusting
to my new surroundings. But that all changed when two boys
from my class, Eric and Ricky, approached me at lunch time
one day. Eric, who was very cute with blonde hair and blue
eyes, told me that he and Ricky went to a Bible Club on Sundays
and that they learned a lot of neat things about the Bible
there. Then he asked me if I knew what I had to do to go to
heaven.
I thought that everyone knew that you had to be good to get
there and I told him that. So I was surprised to find out
that I had the wrong answer. He explained to me that heaven
is a gift, not a reward, so it's not what we do, but what
Jesus did that gets us to heaven. The only condition to go
there is to believe in Jesus.
At first it didn't make sense to me because I was thinking
that if you didn't have to be good to go to heaven, then why
did the Bible teach that we are to be good? When I asked them
that question, Eric explained, "So God can reward you
with a happy life and give us rewards in heaven."
Ricky had a pamphlet in his pocket and he pulled it out to
show me some verses that were quoted in it. After listening
to them and reading the verses myself, I was convinced that
what they were telling me was true. I was so excited to know
that I was going to go to heaven because I had trusted Jesus
to get me there. I said, "That's wonderful news. That
means I'm going to heaven!"
I could see they were as happy as me and Eric asked, "Would
you like to come to our Bible Club next Sunday?"
"Yes, I would."
My parents weren't regular church-goers so when I asked permission
to go to Bible Club, they were happy I would be going somewhere
to learn about the Bible. Bible Club was as fun as I expected. The teacher, Miss Helen,
made the stories in the Bible come alive. And the other kids
in the class (there were seven), were really nice and made
me feel welcome, except for one girl who was also one of my
classmates at school. Her name was Haley. I could tell she
didn't like me, but I was too happy to let her bother me.
Miss Helen explained that God wants us to talk to people about
how to go to heaven and when she asked if anyone wanted to
go with her that afternoon to go talk to people in neighborhoods,
I raised my hand. I phoned my mother after Bible Club and
got permission. I had the most wonderful day listening to
Miss Helen explain the Gospel to people and seeing how much
people wanted to hear about God.
The next day at school, Eric and Ricky asked me if I wanted
to go with them after school to a park to talk to some people.
We really had a fun time, but the next day at school I could
see that Haley was treating me worse than she had. When I
asked Eric about it he told me that he and Haley were boyfriend
and girlfriend and she was jealous of me. I felt bad because
I didn't know that they were boyfriend and girlfriend. But
she had no reason to be jealous of me, I only wanted to be
Eric's friend, not his girlfriend. And the only reason I spent
more time with him than she did was because she wasn't as
interested as we were in sharing the Gospel. He told me that
when he would ask her to go with him to the park after school,
most of the time she would have an excuse not to go.
But a short time after that it seemed like her feelings for
me completely changed because she started treating me real
nice and even asked me over for dinner at her place. Seeing
her in her home environment helped me understand why she was
so different from the rest of the kids at Bible Club. I had
observed at Bible Club and at school that she wanted to be
looked upon as special and was jealous when any of the other
kids were praised. She wanted all the attention to go to herself.
Sometimes when Miss Helen was teaching, Haley would interrupt
and talk about herself and she would do the same thing at
school. After seeing how her mother treated her, I realized
the reason for her behavior was because her mother spoiled
her rotten. It was sickening to see how she gave into her
demands. And Haley treated her mother as though she were her
sister instead of her mother. It was really gross.
After I had dinner at her place, she kept dropping hints about
how nice it would be to come over and meet my parents and
sister. At first I didn't want her to come because I was ashamed
of the house I lived in. Haley's house was so nice; it even
had a swimming pool in the back yard. My house was a shack
in comparison.
But one Sunday, Miss Helen gave a Bible study on the subject
of possessions. She explained it's not the things that we
accumulate down here that are important, but what we accumulate
in heaven. She explained that God wants us to do things for
Him so He can reward us for those works when we get to heaven.
That's what Jesus meant in Matthew chapter six, verse twenty,
when He said, "Lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven."
The more Miss Helen talked, the more I realized that I shouldn't
be ashamed of being poor, because if I was serving God, in
His eyes I was rich. That really made me feel good and after
Bible Club I asked Haley if she would like to come to my place
for dinner. I knew my mother wouldn't mind because she had
told me I was welcome to bring a friend over for dinner any
time.
She came over Wednesday after school and after dinner when
we were playing in my room, she walked over to my closet and
opened it up. I was surprised how bold she was. As she looked
over my clothes, she said, "I really love your clothes,
were did you buy them?"
I could feel my face turning red and I looked down wishing
with all my heart she had never asked. At first I thought
about lying, but I didn't want the Lord to be upset with me,
so in a quiet voice I answered, "Salvation Army."
This year my parents couldn't afford to take me to a regular
store and my mother spent a lot of time looking for things
that were nice and looked new. So I felt ashamed that I was
embarrassed, but my pain only became greater when she responded
to knowing where my clothes came from. She said, "Uwww,
gross."
I had no control over the tears that filled my eyes. I quickly
turned away and said, "Maybe it's time to go home. Do
you mind?"
"Oh, not at all. I'm sure my mother is expecting me.
See you later."
There were hot tears on my pillow that night. I started praying
that my father could get a really good job that paid a lot
of money so we could move into a nice house and I could have
store bought clothes. I was terrified that at school the next
day, everyone would know my secret.
Instead, Haley was extra nice to me. After school, she and
Eric paid me an unexpected visit. When I opened the door Haley
was grinning from ear to ear and she was holding a large bag.
She said, "I have some things I wanted to give you."
I couldn't imagine what was in the bag and when I opened it
up and saw a lot of toys and games and a few stuffed animals,
I was really embarrassed. I could barely utter the words,
"Thank you." I had been to Haley's house and had
gotten to spend time in her room. It was so filled with things
that it looked like a circus, and now out of pity for me she
was giving me some of her things. I felt so humiliated that
not only had she done this, but she had done it in front of
Eric. At that moment I wished the earth could open up and
swallow me.
The next day at school Eric went out of his way to be exceptionally
nice to me. After school, Haley came up to me and told me
she had something she wanted to tell me. As she walked home
with me she told me that what she wanted to tell me was a
secret and it had to be between just me and her. I agreed
to keep whatever she was going to tell me a secret and then
she told me that this secret was going to hurt my feelings.
I immediately felt hurt but wanted to know whatever it was
she had to say.
I could not have been more unprepared for what she told me.
She said, "Eric said he couldn't believe how shabby your
house was and it was too bad you were so poor because that
meant you could never be popular."
I walked in stunned silence. I really liked Eric and thought
he was my friend. Soon tears were falling down my cheeks and
I muttered, "I have to hurry home" and started running
home feeling like someone had just broken my heart.
It was Friday when this conversation took place and Sunday
morning when my mother woke me up to go to Bible Club, I told
her I wasn't feeling well. I really wasn't feeling well; my
soul was sick.
I wasn't expecting a call from Miss Helen after Bible Club,
but she called to see why I hadn't come. I couldn't tell her
that I wasn't sure if I would ever come back to Bible Club;
I just told her I wasn't feeling well.
I went back to my room and threw myself on my bed. I was so
glad that my sister was outside playing so I could be alone.
I felt so bad. Then about an hour later the phone rang and it was Miss Helen
again. She said, "I hope I'm not bothering you, Michelle,
but I thought since you're going to be in for the day you
would like to read some stories that a friend of mine wrote.
I could drop them off to you now if you like?" Miss Helen
was so sweet to think of me. I thought maybe those stories
would take my mind off my misery so I said, "Yes, I would
like that. Thank you."
Within an half hour I was propped up with pillows in my bed
totally absorbed by the stories she had dropped by. They were
about young people, like myself, who had gone through hard
times and had seen God work things out for them. Many of the
stories brought tears to my eyes and I realized that the God
I served could be trusted to help me in my life. After about
an hour of reading, my sadness was replaced by joy.
The next day I woke up with a cold so I had to stay home from
school and it also meant that I would miss going to Haley's
birthday party that night, but I didn't mind because I wasn't
looking forward to seeing Eric.
The next day he approached me at lunch time and asked if I
wanted to join them for lunch at the school cafeteria. My
eyes filled with tears and I quickly turned away from him
and said, "No, thank you." Then after school he walked up to me and asked me what was
wrong. I told him that I really didn't want to talk.
That night when I was praying I couldn't get Eric off my mind.
I realized that I was holding what he said against him and
that was wrong. God doesn't want us to hold grudges. So I
prayed, "Lord, You have forgiven me for so much, please
help me to forgive Eric." As soon as I uttered those
words, I felt like a tremendous weight was lifted off my shoulders.
And when I went to school the next day it didn't bother me
to be around him. It was exciting seeing God be so real in
my life. Not only had He helped me forgive Eric, but He took
away those bad feelings I had whenever I was around him.
There were only three weeks left of school before summer
vacation. It made me sad because my only friends were the
kids at Bible Club so I would only get to see them once a
week during the summer. But a week before school got out,
Ricky came up to me after school and asked if I would like
to go ice skating with him. Ricky had dark curly hair and
blue eyes and he was so shy he couldn't even look me in the
eyes when he asked. I told him I would like to but I would
have to ask my parents' permission. I gave him my phone number
and asked him to call me that night.
I was so happy walking home that day because I thought it
would be fun to have Ricky as a boyfriend. And I liked the
fact he was shy because I was shy too.
My parents gave me permission and that Saturday, his mother
picked me up and drove us to the skating rink. We had a lot
of fun and he bought me hot chocolate when we were finished.
Ricky and I spent a lot of time together as the weeks went
by and the more we got to know each other the more we could
share things about our lives with each other. I told him how
much it bothered me at first to move to a poor section of
town until I learned from the Bible how God sees things. It
not the things we have, but the relationship we have with
Him that is important. Money can be here today and gone tomorrow,
but the person who serves the Lord will have a friendship
with God now and rewards in the future.
Ricky confided in me that having me as his girlfriend was
one of his rewards. He told me that the first day I came to
school he prayed that I would like him someday. I blushed
when he told me that I was the prettiest girl in the whole
school; I had never thought of myself as pretty.
Ricky and I met at the park a lot that summer so we could
talk to people about the Gospel. I could see that the more
time I spent serving God, the more God was changing me. And
I couldn't help but observe that I wasn't the only one changing.
I noticed from week to week when I went to Bible Club that
Haley was being transformed into a different person too.
One day toward the end of the summer she gave me a call and
asked if we could get together to talk. She came over to my
place and we went and sat in some lounge chairs in my backyard.
I could tell something was bothering her.
She said, "There is something I have to tell you."
She paused like she was groping for the right words. She continued,
"This is really embarrassing, but you know last year
when I told you that Eric said you'll never be popular because
you're poor?"
Just repeating those words hurt me. I quietly answered, "Yes,"
not knowing what she was about to say. "Well, I made the whole thing up." I sat there for a moment stunned by this admission. I thought
of all the pain I had suffered because I thought Eric said
those cruel things and how I had never been friends with him
since because of it. Then I felt really angry at Haley for
doing that, but I held back my anger and asked, "Why
did you do that?"
Before she could even answer, she started crying and my anger
turned into pity. I knew she was really suffering and it took
a lot for her even to confess this to me. Finally she said,
"Michelle, you are so pretty and I was afraid that Eric
was going to start liking you." Sobbing, she said, "I'm
so sorry, please forgive me."
The words of Miss Helen rang in my ears as I remembered how
she quoted from the Bible where it says we are to forgive
one another as Christ has forgiven us. I answered Haley, "Of
course I forgive you."
Haley gave me a hug and said, "You're such a special
person. You know, when I came over to dinner that night last
year, I was jealous of you." I was really taken back that Haley, with all her wealth, would
be jealous of me who had so little. I asked, "Why?"
Because I saw how much your family loved one another. I was
jealous of the relationship you have with your parents." This really surprised me because I couldn't help but notice
after Bible Club each Sunday how Haley's mother always gave
into her demands. And after seeing her room, it was obvious
that her parents had withheld nothing from her.
With tears in her eyes, she sad, "Michelle, I was a miserable,
unhappy kid until about three months ago when my parents told
me that they realized that they weren't raising me the way
God wanted them to. They told me that I was no longer going
to get my own way and that 'no' meant 'no'. I fought it at
first but when I realized they meant business I surrendered
and instead of being miserable like I thought I would be,
I started feeling better. And I don't think you'd recognize
my room."
Why not?" I asked.
"Because most of my things are gone."
"Really?" I said, "how come?"
"My parents made me give most of my things away to needy
children. At first I was really upset, but I started realizing
it was wrong for me to have so much when so many had so little."
Then she laughed and said, "And now, thank goodness,
I have some space in my room; it's no longer cluttered."
Now I understood why I had seen Haley change over the summer.
That night Eric called me and told me that Haley had talked
to him. He said, "I always wondered why you treated me
differently. I never thought Haley would do anything like
that. Anyway, I'm glad that things are straightened out now.
I hope you'll want to be friends with me again."
"Of course I do."
As I lay in bed that night I thought of all that I had been
through the past year and how God had blessed me. My whole
family, including Grandma, had believed the Gospel. I was
happier than I had ever been in my life. I knew where I was
going when I left this earth and I knew my purpose for being
here on earth. I smiled as I drifted off to sleep knowing
I truly was a rich girl.
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